Do you see him? Here’s a closer shot—
Do you see him? Here’s a closer shot—
So yeah, I was there last Friday. Why? I needed to pick up something from Rustan’s at 1:30PM (note the time!).
I had just come from the Tickled Pink Bazaar at Rockwell around noon and asked Manong to drop me off at G4 so I could get some lunch at Food Choices. I hadn’t been to G4 in a looooong time and I was happy to find lots of new places in the area. (Can you believe that Binondo’s The President Restaurant has a stall there?)
Took this picture on our way to Tagaytay last weekend.
(Here’s something I wrote for MomEx…)
Two nights ago, I went out with a friend. She asked me how my life changed when I had children.
Robert, please. You don’t understand, no-one does. When a woman makes the choice to marry, to have children; in one way her life begins but in another way it stops. You build a life of details. You become a mother, a wife and you stop and stay steady so that your children can move. And when they leave they take your life of details with them. And then you’re expected move again only you don’t remember what moves you because no-one has asked in so long. Not even yourself. You never in your life think that love like this can happen to you.
That freaked me out a bit. Which explains why, the past few months have seen me going out more and “reclaiming” myself. I feel that I’ve given a lot of myself to my children and my husband, and now, I’m trying to find some “balance”.
I realized one day that I didn’t have any friends who I could call out of the blue and ask out without needing to “schedule” with them. All my girlfriends are either not in Manila, busy with work, or married with children (and that says a lot). And the idea made me a bit sad.
Of course, marriage and children are something that one makes a clear choice for, but I think that every woman should continue to keep her individual self as she continues on her roles of wife and mother. One of my greatest fears is that I grow old because one day, I find myself with an empty nest, and not know what to do next because there are no kids to care for.
This is probably why it is important to keep busy with something one loves doing, which is probably what I’ll do. Nonono, silly, not partying all the time! =) Something ELSE! =)
Have a great week, everyone!
Post script: I guess what I generally meant was that everyone has to continue learning, widening their horizons. I’ve seen people (E, both of us know who!! Hahahahaha! Both our…you know whos) who have decided to be complacent with what they are.
But I think that in order to grow, to flourish, to be the best that one can be, man needs to continue learning. And I guess, for me, it means to get involved with other things—whether it’s business, new places, new people, a new venture.
I have very seldom alone time these days. What with work (yes, I work!), the boys (yes, all 3), the mall operations (I really like), and LMI (watch out for THAT!), I hardly have time for myself. (Of course, unless you count the time I drive myself to the mall, go around and check the booths, then, maybe I still have alone time.)
My major alone time is when I do exercise (run or do yoga). It’s something I do without my watch and without my mobile. It’s just me, myself and I. And I’ve learned to NOT feel guilty about having alone time.
There was a time that I felt that I should devote all my time to others–mostly the boys. But I realized that without recharging, I tend to lose all the energy I have stored! So now, I cherish my alone time, whether it be exercising or doing nothing.
I am enjoying my alone time now–a beautiful rainy Sunday afternoon, at the computer, listening to pounding house music. Such are the little pleasures in life! Cherish them!
A parent who has never apologized to his children is a monster. If he’s always apologizing, his children are monsters. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966 (found this here)
I was looking for a quote on parenting and I found that quote above. Funny. So true!